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The Hastings Shadmehry Show

Mali Shadmehry, one of our founding partners, reveals how a forward-thinking, compassionate approach to divorce empowers people to leave toxic situations, reclaim their happiness, and create a more positive impact on society. But that’s just the beginning!

Want deeper insights from Mali and Andee? Join the conversation on The Hastings Shadmehry Show, where we explore life-changing strategies, personal stories, and a fresh vision for divorce and family law.

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In this episode, Andee and Mali welcome back Hastings Shadmehry Associate Attorney Emily Long. This time, it's to delve into Emily's whole personal story.

The ladies find out where Emily comes from, all of the experiences and jobs that led her to Family Law, her philosophy on how her profession advances society, and her method for on creating a work/life balance.

Join the conversation as the partners introduce one of the firm's most well-reviewed attorneys.


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00:25 Intros
01:00 Warrior or Diplomat?
03:00 A 5-star Client Review for Emily
05:15 Emily’s early years
07:46 Emily’s first job with DFACS
08:00 Emily’s medical aspirations
10:00 Rewards and drawbacks of Child Services
15:30 Life-long health issues
18:50 Her Law School experience
23:18 Her first jobs as a lawyer
24:00 Special mentors in her life
26:00 Work as a SAAG
27:15 Emily’s move to Family Law
28:00 Connecting with the client
31:00 Growing as an attorney
32:00 Managing her career and her health
34:00 The importance of therapy
36:30 A Dog Mom and a Cat Mom
41:00 Emily’s philosophy on Family Law
42:50 You can’t clean dirt with dirt
44:00 Wrap-up

In this episodes of The Hastings Shadmehry Show, Andee and Mali talk through the intricacies of a post-divorce parenting plan that covers summer vacation.

Parenting Plans are common in divorce, and most of them are geared toward everyday life throughout the school year. Then when the summer months come around, families can find themselves in needless and avoidable arguments because they don’t have a solid, well-thought-out parenting plan.

The partners talk through the problems that can arise and the best way to prevent them. After they briefly discuss the inevitable fall-out after passing through a full moon in Scorpio, of course.

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00:25 Intros
00:45 Warrior or Diplomat
04:30 The Basics of Post-Divorce Parenting Plans
05:30 What is Summer Parenting Time?
06:30 Do the Summer Holidays affect parenting time?
08:00 A weak Summer Parenting Plan leads to trouble
10:00 Family travel can affect the plan
12:00 What if the parents live far away?
13:15 Some parents can’t have extended parenting time
14:00 Providing notice of travel plans
18:00 Taking the child out of the jurisdiction
20:00 Judges don’t like vacation drama
21:20 Summation and Sign-off


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This week is an ENCORE of Andee's and Mali's still-topical discussion this week about No Fault Divorce -- a legal term that has been coming up a lot recently. No Fault Divorce was first established in the US 50 years ago but has become a cornerstone of Family Law and personal rights.

Andee and Mali talk about what the term means, the history of No Fault Divorce in the US, and the pros and cons of No Fault Divorce in the Family Courts.

Join them for this extremely topical and informative discussion about an area of Family Law with far-reaching influence!

00:25 Introduction

3:00 Andee’s Crazy Trial Story

13:00 Warrior or Diplomat?

13:45 Introduction To No Fault Divorce

14:00 The 13 Grounds For Divorce In GA

16:45 No Fault Divorce Is Treated Differently Under The Law

18:45 Family Law Before No Fault Divorce

21:00 The Difficulty of Divorce Without No Fault Divorce

23:00 Pleading No Fault Alongside Other Grounds

27:00 Being In A State of Separation

30:00 Arguments For No Fault Divorce

32:20 Arguments Against No Fault Divorce

35:40 Does Conduct Still Come Into the Case?

38:50 Wrap Up

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In this episode, Andee welcomes special guest Kim Beatty to our new podcast studio!

Kim is an EXPERT on Juvenile Family Law, working closely with Child Protective Services, the Foster Care network, families and children in need of assistance.

Join the conversation as Kim talks with Andee about the fine points of this complicated but rewarding area of Family Law.

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00:25 - Intros
01:22 - Warrior or Diplomat?
04:49 - Juvenile Court Overview
05:31 - Dependency Cases Explained
07:22 - Role of DFACS
08:09 - Factors for Dependency Cases
10:07 - Child Testimony in Dependency Cases
12:30 - Roles in Juvenile Court
16:01 - Time Frames in Dependency Cases
19:12 - Placement of Children
22:32 - Overlap Between CHINS and Dependency Cases
28:26 - Impact of Case Facts on Placement
31:11 - Resources for Families
35:48 - Contact Information for Kim Beatty
37:49 - Closing

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The Domestic Relations Financial Affidavits (or DeRFA) is a truly crucial early step in every Divorce proceeding. Andee and Mali explain what a DeRFA is, how it works, and why it is so important.

Join this informative and fun discussion to find out why the DeRFA is such an important aspect of having an easier, quicker, and more successful divorce.


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00:25 Intro

00:59 Warrior or Diplomat?

04:15 What is a DRFA and why do we need it in a Divorce?

06:00 What line items are in a DRFA?

07:40 Do the DRFA early in the Divorce process

08:20 How the DRFA is treated by the Divorce Courts

10:00 The dangers of doing a DRFA wrong

14:30 Establishing Income in a DRFA

18:30 DRFAs MUST be backed up with evidence

19:00 Showing Expenses in a DRFA

19:50 How a DRFA influences Alimony

21:30 A DRFA can go far to establish Credibility with the Judge

24:00 A DRFA can affect Child Support

24:30 Showing Assets in a DRFA

26:15 How a DRFA differs from the Marital Balance Sheet

27:40 Amending a DRFA as the case continues

30:16 Dealing with unknown financial factors

32:00 A DRFA helps establish the client’s future life

33:00 Wrap-Up

Dr Kyrstin Lokkesmoe is BACK with Andee to continue her discussion on Toxic Narcissists. This time around, the ladies discuss how the Toxic Narcissist acts in Divorce proceedings. How do they appear to the judge or to a mediator? How do they treat the attorneys on the other side? Dr Kyrstin provides the clues to look for and gives advice on how to deal with it, and Andee has several observations of her own.

It's another fun, warm, and informative conversation as these two talented women break down a complicated and destructive personality disorder.

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00:21 Intro
00:51 Warrior or Diplomat
02:40 Manipulation is a hallmark of the Narcissist
05:10 What is "Projection"?
06:15 The Narcissist creates a false narrative
08:00 Stay in communication with your team
10:00 Have a plan for dealing with the Narcissist
12:30 Rely on your team
14:40 The importance of documentation to combat lies
16:50 The importance of Therapeutic Support
18:20 Anticipating the behavior
22:40 Is there a point where the Narcissist will be exposed?
25:00 Give them what they want or Fight?
27:50 Narcissists will sometimes use the court system
30:15 Dr. Kyrstin's new Coaching endeavor
31:40 Wrap-up

This week, we are presenting an ENCORE of Andee's second conversation on Narcissism and Divorce with Dr Kyrstin Lokkesmoe, PhD, LPC, because we will be bringing Part Three next week.

Narcissism is a commonly heard term and it is something that the lawyers of Hastings Shadmehry deal with on a regular basis. Join the conversation, as Andee and Dr. Kyrstin continue their discussion of this toxic personality disorder, and how it affects relationships and family law cases.

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00:20 Introductions
01:12 Warrior or Diplomat?
03:22 Gray Rocking and Yellow Rocking
08:48 A professional experience dealing with being gaslit
10:20 Natural tendency to get drawn in by a Narcissist
12:00 How counseling can help to fend off a Narcissist
13:30 Advice for people who develop the need to fight back
15:45 Benefits of physical activity
17:00 Clients who fear they won't be believed
23:00 Recognizing patterns so behavior can be predicted
24:50 Are there patterns when the Narcissist wants to leave?
26:20 Do Narcissists try to punish their partners?
27:05 The so-called Flying Monkeys
28:30 Helping people through the process of being discarded
30:20 Is the threat of being discarded something that Narcissist uses?
32:00 A great therapeutic exercise to practice
35:00 Narcissists find ways to isolate their partners
36:10 Learning to see the patterns is key
38:00 A Divorce case where the Narcissist had to be revealed to the court
41:20 What is Parallel Parenting?
43:30 The Value of the app Our Family Wizard
47:55 Where to find Dr. Kyrstin online and how to contact
48:40 Wrap-up