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The Domestic Relations Financial Affidavits (or DeRFA) is a truly crucial early step in every Divorce proceeding. Andee and Mali explain what a DeRFA is, how it works, and why it is so important.

Join this informative and fun discussion to find out why the DeRFA is such an important aspect of having an easier, quicker, and more successful divorce.


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00:25 Intro

00:59 Warrior or Diplomat?

04:15 What is a DRFA and why do we need it in a Divorce?

06:00 What line items are in a DRFA?

07:40 Do the DRFA early in the Divorce process

08:20 How the DRFA is treated by the Divorce Courts

10:00 The dangers of doing a DRFA wrong

14:30 Establishing Income in a DRFA

18:30 DRFAs MUST be backed up with evidence

19:00 Showing Expenses in a DRFA

19:50 How a DRFA influences Alimony

21:30 A DRFA can go far to establish Credibility with the Judge

24:00 A DRFA can affect Child Support

24:30 Showing Assets in a DRFA

26:15 How a DRFA differs from the Marital Balance Sheet

27:40 Amending a DRFA as the case continues

30:16 Dealing with unknown financial factors

32:00 A DRFA helps establish the client’s future life

33:00 Wrap-Up

Dr Kyrstin Lokkesmoe is BACK with Andee to continue her discussion on Toxic Narcissists. This time around, the ladies discuss how the Toxic Narcissist acts in Divorce proceedings. How do they appear to the judge or to a mediator? How do they treat the attorneys on the other side? Dr Kyrstin provides the clues to look for and gives advice on how to deal with it, and Andee has several observations of her own.

It's another fun, warm, and informative conversation as these two talented women break down a complicated and destructive personality disorder.

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00:21 Intro
00:51 Warrior or Diplomat
02:40 Manipulation is a hallmark of the Narcissist
05:10 What is "Projection"?
06:15 The Narcissist creates a false narrative
08:00 Stay in communication with your team
10:00 Have a plan for dealing with the Narcissist
12:30 Rely on your team
14:40 The importance of documentation to combat lies
16:50 The importance of Therapeutic Support
18:20 Anticipating the behavior
22:40 Is there a point where the Narcissist will be exposed?
25:00 Give them what they want or Fight?
27:50 Narcissists will sometimes use the court system
30:15 Dr. Kyrstin's new Coaching endeavor
31:40 Wrap-up

This week, we are presenting an ENCORE of Andee's second conversation on Narcissism and Divorce with Dr Kyrstin Lokkesmoe, PhD, LPC, because we will be bringing Part Three next week.

Narcissism is a commonly heard term and it is something that the lawyers of Hastings Shadmehry deal with on a regular basis. Join the conversation, as Andee and Dr. Kyrstin continue their discussion of this toxic personality disorder, and how it affects relationships and family law cases.

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00:20 Introductions
01:12 Warrior or Diplomat?
03:22 Gray Rocking and Yellow Rocking
08:48 A professional experience dealing with being gaslit
10:20 Natural tendency to get drawn in by a Narcissist
12:00 How counseling can help to fend off a Narcissist
13:30 Advice for people who develop the need to fight back
15:45 Benefits of physical activity
17:00 Clients who fear they won't be believed
23:00 Recognizing patterns so behavior can be predicted
24:50 Are there patterns when the Narcissist wants to leave?
26:20 Do Narcissists try to punish their partners?
27:05 The so-called Flying Monkeys
28:30 Helping people through the process of being discarded
30:20 Is the threat of being discarded something that Narcissist uses?
32:00 A great therapeutic exercise to practice
35:00 Narcissists find ways to isolate their partners
36:10 Learning to see the patterns is key
38:00 A Divorce case where the Narcissist had to be revealed to the court
41:20 What is Parallel Parenting?
43:30 The Value of the app Our Family Wizard
47:55 Where to find Dr. Kyrstin online and how to contact
48:40 Wrap-up

This week Andee and Mali interview Hastings Shadmehry Senior Attorney Stephanie Weil!

Stephanie came to the firm with a lot of Family Law experience and a unique life experience. Everything about her family, her education, her work experience, even her personal relationships seems to contribute toward making Stephanie the lawyer and the person that she is today.

Join the conversation as the partners introduce us to this brilliant, funny, and dedicated Family Law professional.

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00:25 Intros
01:14 Warrior or Diplomat
04:11 Understanding when it's time to go to Court
05:22 Where is Stephanie from?
06:30 Stephanie's undergrad experience
07:20 The move towards Law School
08:30 Stephanie's parents' professional legal experience
09:30 Stephanie's experience as a child of divorced parents
11:15 Stephanie's life as a stay-at-home mom and as a single mom
11:50 Stephanie launched her legal career
13:44 Stephanie faces a physical challenge
17:58 What it means to be a Litigator
18:40 Stephanie moves into Family Law
20:10 Stephanie's own blended family
20:50 Stephanie moves to Georgia
23:00 Differences between Family Law in Georgia vs Florida
24:00 Stephanie gravitates towards complex high asset cases
26:50 Stephanie's personal interests
27:06 Stephanie is a dog mom and a cat mom
28:44 Stephanie's philosophy on being a Family Law attorney
31:00 Wrap-up

In this information-packed episode of The Hastings Shadmehry Show, Andee and Mali discuss some of the professional Experts that can be recruited to help with a Divorce case.

These Experts help Family lawyers gather evidence, submit reports, interpret reports from the opposing party, and can testify to their findings in Court.

Experts are an integral and often-utilized part of the Divorce process and the partners do a great job explaining who they are and what they can help with.

Join us for a delightful and informative discussion!

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As promised, this week we bring you the second part of our Meet the Partners event, as Kendall Walker sits down with Mali Shadmehry.

Mali will tell us all about herself -- her upbringing, her education, her competitive pursuits, and her meteoric rise to becoming a young entrpreneur and partner in her own firm.

It's always a fun conversation when Mali and Kendall get together, so be prepared to laugh and maybe cry, as Mali walks us through her remarkable journey.

Join us for a delightful and revealing discussion!

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We are starting our Second season with a bang! This week we have an interview with one of the partners of Hastings Shadmehry, Andee Hastings. Our producer Kendall Walker sits down with Andee for a look at Andee’s life and career.

Andee will tell us all about herself – where she comes from, what she studied in school, and where she went to Law School. Then Andee talks about her unique career, her many mentors, and the road she took to become one of the premiere family lawyers in her state.

Join us for a delightful and revealing discussion!

Our email: podcast@hsfamilylaw.com
Visit our website: https://hsfamilylaw.com
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Contact us for a consultation: https://hsfamilylaw.com/contact-us/

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00:30 Introduction
01:40 Warrior or Diplomat?
02:50 Andee’s birthplace and formative years
04:23 Andee did PhD work in High School?
05:50 Undergrad work
06:26 Law School and early work in the Law
07:10 Andee’s original post-school goals
08:15 Work as a Domestic Violence Prosecutor
09:10 Andee’s first Mentor as a Prosecutor
10:50 When Did Andee start practicing?
11:05 Young Andee makes Case Law
16:08 Andee’s work in Civil Litigation
17:27 Andee moves into Family Law
18:05 Andee’s Family Law Mentor
20:05 Andee’s work as a Guardian Ad Litem
22:08 Andee’s work in Animal Rescue
24:00 Andee’s personal pack
25:10 Andee speaks several languages
27:00 Wrap-up

This week on The Hastings Shadmehry Show, Andee and Mali take a deep dive into an often intricate topic -- WHEN to file for Divorce. They talk about the Timing of Filing and how it impacts and is impacted by things like Finances, Custodial Rights, temporary Living Arrangements. They even get into the strategies behind Filing

Join the conversation for another impactful, fact-filled and of course fun discussion!

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00:25 Greeting
01:09 Warrior or Diplomat?
06:15 Intro to Filing for Divorce
07:18 Top questions asked when Filing for Divorce
08:15 Filing for Divorce affecting Custody
08:53 Living Arrangements after Filing
09:35 Being the Plaintiff should not affect Custody
11:40 Fears of how things will change after Filing
14:30 Will it look bad if you file at a bad time?
16:16 Should you talk to the kids before Filing?
18:23 Do you need evidence before Filing?
21:30 Don’t bombard your attorney with evidence
23:00 Should evidence of Adultery be gathered?
30:07 Financial preparations before Filing
32:25 Strategy of Filing
32:46 Explanation of a Standing Order
35:40 Ultimately, the Timeline is the Client’s
36:15 The emotional side of Filing
39:56 Wrap-up